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April 7, 2020

Mindfulness is our capacity to be aware in the present moment through intention and openness (non- judgment).  Noticing our internal experience connected to the external environment moment to moment leads to a more complete and meaningful experience...

February 19, 2020

I have had many desperate partners and parents in my office who say, “If only my loved one would go to counselling”, usually with a following variation, “then I can relax/trust or s/he will fix him/herself so that we can be good together”.  Much as I...

February 18, 2020

I have many couple clients who leave with great hope and sense of “we can do this”.  There has been enough listening, clarification and understanding that they have been able to release the emotions and hurt and develop “fair fight” strategies.  Then...

February 4, 2020

There are many reasons why we struggle to maintain a healthy balance in our primary intimate relationships. Regardless of those reasons, they are validated by a series of events and causes.

The first thing I encourage people to do is to get more speci...

January 29, 2020

When we have been deeply hurt by someone with whom we are in relationship – partner, lover, parent, child, sibling or friend – we often don’t know what to do.  Do we lash out and trade tit for tat?  Do we go silent to avoid the conflict and potential...

January 14, 2020

We have a tendency to take our partners for granted. The courtship was wonderful, the love-making great.  Then we get married and settle down and focus on other things.  Slowly there are times of disconnection.  Arguments may fester unresolved.  Ther...

January 7, 2020

As I was writing the blog on mindfulness and parenting I was struck with the parallels for me between mindfulness and the strategies of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples which I am using now.

Mindfulness is the ability to experience what i...

November 1, 2017

Stress 7 – The Chemistry The neurosciences of human psychology is fascinating.  Today we look at the main brain chemicals (neurotransmitters) involved in stress. My next stress blog will cover the chemicals related to stress relief.  Understanding ho...

October 31, 2017

 So what can you really do?

Analyze:  Do an honest inventory of how you really spend your time (include distractions like TV, surfing the net, unneeded texting and emailing).   Recently I removed an app that prompted me to feed and maintain it, and pl...

October 30, 2017

Most people find the Christmas season stressful.  One of the reasons this occurs is because we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. 

There is nothing like family get-togethers to observe how we and others ramp things up.  Despit...

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