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May 19, 2020

One thing about women that is difficult for many men is when we cry.  Often for a man he feels powerless in the face of tears and as discussed in my previous blog on when men lie, they feel like a failure in the face of this liquid demonstration of t...

May 12, 2020

In my work with couples the issue of truth and lies, trust, and trustworthiness often arise.  The difficulty is that there is always more than one perspective on the issue, and men and women have different understandings of truth and lies. 


May 6, 2020

When people come for counselling they often wonder, “how long is this going to take?” And/or “Are you the one that can truly help me make lasting change?” (Often after a long list of seeking many helpers or approaches.) The answers to these questions...

April 25, 2020

In my previous blog, How to Really Listen, I promised to provide some questions that promote a deeper understanding and connection.  I have adapted most of these from Virginia Satir’s Iceberg of Emotion – she taught us that we only see people’s copin...

April 14, 2020

Most couples who come to counselling want to improve their communication. I always explore in what way could communication be improved? When were they at their best in communicating? The answers vary greatly and there is much confusion on what good c...

April 14, 2020

This will conclude my blogs on parenting with mindfulness for now.  When I am challenged as a parent and struggle to be present – start with compassion for myself.  Parenting is a tough job – each of us has many strengths and challenges.  If I keep t...

April 7, 2020

Mindfulness is our capacity to be aware in the present moment through intention and openness (non- judgment).  Noticing our internal experience connected to the external environment moment to moment leads to a more complete and meaningful experience...

February 19, 2020

I have had many desperate partners and parents in my office who say, “If only my loved one would go to counselling”, usually with a following variation, “then I can relax/trust or s/he will fix him/herself so that we can be good together”.  Much as I...

February 18, 2020

I have many couple clients who leave with great hope and sense of “we can do this”.  There has been enough listening, clarification and understanding that they have been able to release the emotions and hurt and develop “fair fight” strategies.  Then...

February 4, 2020

There are many reasons why we struggle to maintain a healthy balance in our primary intimate relationships. Regardless of those reasons, they are validated by a series of events and causes.

The first thing I encourage people to do is to get more speci...

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