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July 8, 2020

Stress and fear are very related in how our body responds. Within 20 seconds of a threat hormones rush through our bodies to prepare us to react.

June 27, 2020

Research has clearly established that having healthy relationships is the best predictor of individual well-being and longevity.  What matters is attachment, mutual understanding and support - being each other’s safe haven.  Conflict in relationships...

June 20, 2020

It is important to consider why you want to live together and to honestly explore the hopes, dreams and possible internal and external obstacles to relationship bliss.  You need to ask yourself the hard questions, self examine, ask people who care ab...

June 11, 2020

The Set-Up

As human beings, we have aspects of our experience we can control, and many that are automatic. We are hardwired for stress response at a perceived threat, to breathe without having to think about it, to process food and remove toxins from...

May 19, 2020

One thing about women that is difficult for many men is when we cry.  Often for a man he feels powerless in the face of tears and as discussed in my previous blog on when men lie, they feel like a failure in the face of this liquid demonstration of t...

May 12, 2020

In my work with couples the issue of truth and lies, trust, and trustworthiness often arise.  The difficulty is that there is always more than one perspective on the issue, and men and women have different understandings of truth and lies. 


May 6, 2020

When people come for counselling they often wonder, “how long is this going to take?” And/or “Are you the one that can truly help me make lasting change?” (Often after a long list of seeking many helpers or approaches.) The answers to these questions...

April 25, 2020

In my previous blog, How to Really Listen, I promised to provide some questions that promote a deeper understanding and connection.  I have adapted most of these from Virginia Satir’s Iceberg of Emotion – she taught us that we only see people’s copin...

April 14, 2020

Most couples who come to counselling want to improve their communication. I always explore in what way could communication be improved? When were they at their best in communicating? The answers vary greatly and there is much confusion on what good c...

April 14, 2020

This will conclude my blogs on parenting with mindfulness for now.  When I am challenged as a parent and struggle to be present – start with compassion for myself.  Parenting is a tough job – each of us has many strengths and challenges.  If I keep t...

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